(you) can't win them all
Meaning(s)
1. no person can succeed at everything they do
Popularity
High
Professional
High
Social
How to Memorize
never mind, you can't win them all
Analysis
This expression is often used as a form of consolation, especially when trying to help someone deal with failure or disappointment. The idea is that you remind someone gently - or perhaps sarcastically, if you were part of the reason they lost - that sometimes you lose or things don't work out the way you had hoped. There has to be a winner, which means there always has to be losers. So, unless you're the sort person who never experiences defeat - personally or professionally - then you know how it feels to lose: "Sorry, pal, but you just can't win them all." Some people might shorten 'them' to say 'em', as in, "Sorry, but you can't win 'em all."
Social Examples (Basic)
- Of course, I'm disappointed that I didn't get the apartment I wanted to rent but, look, you can't win 'em all. I'm sure something else will turn up eventually.
- I do feel disappointed that I didn't win the match but I have had a successful season and you can't win them all.
Professional Examples (Basic)
- I know you worked your socks off to try and make that deal. Never mind, you can't win them all.
- That client seems to have taken a dislike to me, which is unusual. I normally get on well with everyone. I suppose you can't win them all.